Part 2: Three tips to move forward now that you have made a change

July 31, 2022

To move forward, you have to identify what is holding you back. After making big and tough decisions there comes a time when it is important to move on to continue living a fulfilling life.

In life, no one wants to be branded a quitter and to be transparent making a life change or quitting something can come with difficulties. It can also be tough and feel like failing rather than a positive sense of liberty and freedom. It can take time to process giving up a habit that you have been used to for years or a thinking pattern that you often fall into daily or even an environment that you have grown accustomed to.

In this blog, we give you some helpful tips to support you in moving forward in your situation.

Tip 1 - Let go of the failure mindset

Most people consider themselves winners, never quitters. However, many of us stay in mindsets, lifestyles, jobs, groups, or situations that no longer serve our well-being, mental health, or physical health. We often stick things out, even when there is an indication that we should not, often this brings a harbour of unwanted circumstances, drama, and hassle into our lives. When asking ourselves why giving up on certain situations is so difficult, often the only answer is fear. Fear of being branded a quitter.

The fear of being labelled a quitter is the main factor in why many individuals choose not to quit what no longer serves them. This fear comes from the unknown of what will happen or the future. This fear can often make us feel as though we are being judged, for making a wrong move or embarrassed for quitting what others believe is a good thing.

Our tip is to let go of a ‘failure’ mindset. In this moment, try asking yourself:

• Could I benefit from talking to a therapist?

• What do I believe will happen if I quit this thing?

• What are the positives that can come from this situation?

• Am I experiencing anxiety symptoms and need a psychotherapist to support me?

• What new daily habit can I replace, with my old habit, lifestyle or mindset?

Tip 2 - Find time to gather your thoughts and decompress

Once you have decided to change, find a quiet and private space to gather your thoughts and decompress, to help process your feelings and emotions as well as help you to think clearly about what you will do next. You can also consider a quick meditation, a brisk walk and, in the long term, a therapist.

Tip 3 - Reduce stress

Feelings of stress and anxiety symptoms are likely in these moments, however, the last thing you want to do is to keep stress bottled up internally. Journalling is a great way to talk through your emotions or any anxious symptoms on paper. This can be a useful starting point for therapy.

If stress is affecting your mental health, according to the BACP, "you can speak to your GP or a professional psychotherapist who can give you a safe space, to be honest about how you are feeling. There are also things you can incorporate into your daily life that can help you to reduce stress. It starts with very small changes to turn things around for you. There are some very simple things that you can put into your busy routine, which will help you to be less stressed.”

They continue to suggest that, “Exercise is one of them – whether that’s going for a run, swim, playing sport or even getting off the bus a stop earlier and walking the rest of the way to work. Breathing exercises, meditation, mindfulness, yoga, and tai chi can help you to relax and reduce stress as well.”

We hope you find these tips useful and practical. You can take a leap of faith in a new direction! Let go of any feelings of failing, find the time to gather your thoughts and emotions, and importantly reduce stress. Get in touch for more details on our psychotherapist services and how I can help you move forward towards change.


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